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Blog (old stuff at medium.com/tdha)

I've blogged on various platforms over the years as a way to express my thoughts on things important to me, though undoubtedly irrelevant in the greater social discourse. For me, this is my Theseus' ball of thread, a token of memory made permanent so that I may look back and judge my intellectual growth – and any audience is just an artefact of chance. 

I did spend some time on Medium but as its focus on long-format has sharpened, it no longer suits my snippet-like musings. But if you're interested...

The family secret

To a child, family is everything and the template for how the world should be. But as the child leaves the nest, albeit gradually to school, and then more regularly as adulthood settles in, one's view of family inevitably comes to the notion that 'my family is weird'. 

And this feeling is more true for immigrant children. For whatever normality may exist, it is still likely different in the cultural context – and all the weird is amplified more so. 

Ironically, through the process of discovering our differences, we will meet those who aren't so. As immigrant children connect and share, there comes the realisation that weird is actually special, and that sometimes it's also actually more normal

Family is not perfect, but it is familiar. 

Ton Ha